Couples Therapy

with Asher Gilmer

  • Communication

    Learn how to help each other feel fully seen, heard, and understood.

  • Co-Regulation

    Become an expert on each other’s nervous systems. Learn how to work together to both stay in an optimal state of nervous system arousal — relaxed, alert, and rational — rather than in flight, fight, or freeze.

  • Sex

    Create — or rebuild — a sex life that is fulfilling for both of you.

  • Pre-Marital

    Set a strong and clear foundation that will support you and your partner in thriving together long-term.

  • Non-Monogamy

    Create or refine a relationship structure that works for all parties involved. Get support with communication, agreements, jealousy, anxiety management, and other related challenges.

  • Affair Recovery

    Rebuild the trust and intimacy between you and your partner.

  • Discernment Counseling

    A supportive structure to help you both develop clarity and confidence around the choice to either keep things the way they are, break up, or commit to working on the relationship in couples therapy for a set period of time.

  • Divorce // Un-coupling

    Get support in this major transition. Have the necessary conversations with the support of a therapist. Honor what was, what is, and experience closure.

I’d be honored to help you and your partner create a thriving relationship.

Having fulfilling and functional relationships with the people we love is vital to us, and yet that can be so challenging to achieve. We can often find ourselves stuck in old familiar ways of interacting and remain in a cycle of disconnection from the ones we love most. I work with my clients to interrupt this cycle of disconnection and dissatisfaction and create new patterns of interaction. We won’t just be talking about the issues you’re facing as a couple, we’ll bring the dynamics into the room and practice changing the patterns in real-time.

My approach allows you to get to the root of the issues and make the shifts you need to make together. By helping you both develop new conflict skills, co-regulation techniques, a shared vision, and successful collaboration with each other, I will support you in creating a win-win relationship in which you both can thrive—as individuals and together.

I work with monogamous and non-monogamous folks of all genders and sexual orientations. Having a fulfilling, healthy, and secure partnership (or partnerships) is absolutely possible and I would be honored to help you move towards that reality.

“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.”

— Esther Perel